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“Five Ways to Deal with a Bad Review” & Sassy Swag Bag Giveaway!


Please welcome today’s featured author Elizabeth Varlet back to Mother/Gamer/Writer! For those of you who haven’t heard, I adored the first Sassy Boyz novel, Fierce & Fabulous and I’m so excited to have Elizabeth back for the second naughty installment. If you love your romance hot and sassy, fun and in-your-face, then this is the series for you.
Today, Elizabeth is sharing with us another awesome guest post, “Five Ways to Deal With a Bad Review” and offering you, dear readers, a chance to win a Sassy Swag Bag and a copy of Dark & Dazzling! Check it out below and good luck!



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“Five Ways to Deal with a Bad Review” & Sassy Swag Bag Giveaway!Dark & Dazzling by Elizabeth Varlet
Series: Sassy Boyz #2
Published by: Carina Press on November 7th, 2016
Genres: GLBT, MM Romance, 18+, Adult
Pages: 262
View on: Goodreads
Grab it: Buy on Amazon
About the Book:

Z doesn’t need a hero…

Azariah “Z” Hayes is a diamond. Equal parts strength and sparkle, he’s more than capable of standing on his own stilettos. So if waiting tables and stripping at The Vibe are what it takes to keep a roof over his head, well, there are worse ways to earn a living.

Connelly is a white knight with a badge…

For NYPD detective Connelly Reid, to serve and protect is just another day at the office—even if that means protecting himself from his own true desires. He’s been curious about Z, his waiter, for months, but it’s not until he sees him in his makeup and heels that the curiosity becomes a fierce attraction. Z, despite all his over-the-top dazzle, might just be the man Connelly has been waiting for his entire life.

But when Connelly investigates underground porn and drug activity with ties to The Vibe, one thing becomes very clear—acting on what he knows is going to hurt Z, financially and emotionally. And though Connelly would love nothing more than to fix all of Z’s problems, no amount of mind-blowing sex can make Z comfortable becoming dependent on his lover. Yet if there’s one thing Connelly knows from his years on the force, it’s this: when things go bad, you need a trusted partner to have your back.






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Five Ways to Deal with a Bad Review.


As authors we are constantly told not to read our own reviews. Heck, I think most artists and performers are told the same thing because it’s good advice. Along the lines of the old phrase “Don’t believe your own press”.
I can’t even count the number of times I read this or how many author friends told me horror stories before I was published myself. I knew!
But the temptation…it’s so great.
When Fierce & Fabulous was published I was so nervous and excited and anxious.  As soon as those early reviews started rolling in I was glued to my computer. And yes, I read them.
Stupid. It was so stupid. I know, but I couldn’t help it. I’d slaved over that book. I loved those characters so much. I needed to know if other people felt the same way.
I’m lucky that Fierce & Fabulous has gotten mostly positive reviews. The love for Ansel & Fitch far outweighs the hate, but the hate is still there.
The first semi-negative review I read was like a punch to my solar-plexus. I was never under any illusions that everyone who read my writing would love it, but I wasn’t prepared for how it would feel to actually see it written in black and white.
I’ve learned my lesson. No more seeking out reviews no matter how curious I am.
They still find their way to me though, so for those times I’ve come up with a helpful list of things that help me deal.

  1. Lots of wine. My favorite wine. I don’t drink often so when I open a bottle it always lifts my spirits.
  2. Take a walk with my Husband. I love spending time with Hubster, he makes me laugh and listens when I’m sad. And he’s always, always on my side even though he’s never read one of my books.
  3. Eat cake. Because…cake! Who can be upset when the sugary, creamy, sweetness is melting in your mouth?
  4. Confide in author friends. I have many and they are all awesome. Plus, they totally know what I’m going through. Their comfort and support is
  5. Reread the positive reviews and remember that some people LOVED it. It’s okay that not everyone enjoys your work. In fact, it’s better. It makes those that do even more special. Embrace those readers and write the next book for them.

So that’s how I deal for now, but I’m always looking for more suggestions. How do you deal with bad news? What lifts your spirits?




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About Elizabeth Varlet

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Elizabeth Varlet is a nerd at heart and spends way too many hours binging on episodes of her favorite television shows. If you love Doctor Who, Supernatural, Stargate, Star Trek, Sherlock, or Firefly you are already her best friend.

She started writing stories in high school and hasn’t stopped. Now, her characters like to get frisky under the covers – or the stars, they’re not picky. She’s a thirty-something, newly married, world traveler who devours books like they were candy.